So when Oscar was three and she had the opportunity to attend college hours away, Rebekah left her son behind with his father. As Today reported, years later, Oscar would travel via plane to visit his mother on holidays and summers, and Rebekah noted that they were very close and communicated constantly.
Her ex had more stability, Maria acknowledged, but when he asked to become the primary caregiver, Maria balked at first. She had felt trapped by motherhood and her marriage, so when she took a university course and met a younger man, she fled to be with him.
An anonymous mom on Reddit shared that she had just left her family after years of struggling as a working mom. But years later, her husband changed his mind, and rather than give up her marriage, the woman agreed to have a baby. While many of the stories from parents who left their kids behind are about recent events, one dad on Reddit kept his story a secret for over 20 years.
Another Reddit dad admitted to leaving his kids behind, but the way he tells the story, you might just understand his rationale. Still, he showed up to the scheduled C-section and saw his twin children born—paternity tests confirmed it. But when they turned one, the mom got the kids removed from her care for endangerment.
He had suffered a traumatic brain injury at a young age, he wrote, and though he became a husband and father to four kids, he no longer has contact with them. The result of this was his wife delivered divorce papers to an inpatient facility he was staying at to try and get better. After his ex lodged charges, the dad had to spend a ton of money fighting back in court but still lost all his rights to his child.
Both parents spoke with a child psychologist separately, and ultimately, the psychologist recommended that Kieran stay away for a few weeks and see what happened.
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Select basic ads. Create a personalised ads profile. Select personalised ads. Apply market research to generate audience insights. Measure content performance. Develop and improve products. List of Partners vendors. Abandonment typically refers to a parent's choice to willfully withhold physical, emotional, and financial support from a minor child. In other words, abandonment occurs when the parent fails to fulfill his or her parental responsibilities and chooses not to have contact with his or her child.
Sometimes parents with sole custody —even those who have fought hard in court to win child custody—have also been accused of abandoning their children. It was a strange feeling. Anyone who knew me would identify me as a high-functioning person, but I was completely unable to keep it together.
I was suicidal and going in and out of hospitals. I tried to get better, but with my ex constantly in my life, I felt there was very little that I could do to support my recovery. It was only when my therapist said, 'You know you can leave,' that I gave myself permission to consider that process. One of my friends had a partner who was Jamaican. She told me that it was very common for Jamaican parents to go to Canada to earn money and leave the kids with the grandparents. She started telling me about different social models and it opened up a new way of thinking.
I told my ex that I was going to Australia for six weeks and that if I didn't come back I would visit the kids twice a year and wanted them to come to me annually. It was a difficult time.
My son would have been too young to remember, but it was disruptive for my daughter. Both kids had counselling, but my daughter struggled in her first year at school. Still, I had to get out of that environment to have any chance of recovery. Otherwise they would not have had a mother at all. It sounds scary and dramatic but it really was that bad. When I started my new job in Sydney, I had photographs of my children plastered on my cubicle.
But there was a lot of criticism. I moved to a new role and decided to pretend that I had no children until I was ready to discuss my situation. One woman kept insisting that I would make a great mother. I was living a double life.
My new partner is a non-custodial parent, too. He doesn't face the same amount of disapproval, but I have learnt to handle difficult conversations better thanks to him. Now I tell people the truth. It is rare to hear the voices of women who choose to leave their children in the primary care of a partner or relative - something this week's Insight seeks to address.
This week on Insight Best of Taboos. In , Kristal Kinsela found herself in an irreparable marriage with her partner on the NSW north coast, with their two children. The couple split and shared care of the kids equally, but Kristal found her career stalled and life isolating in the coastal town.
Career opportunities and her large, Indigenous family pulled her back towards Sydney, and she was conscious of the impact the back and forth between parents was having on her son and daughter. I've done something with myself, I'm being successful. I've broken down the cycle of welfare dependency, I'm trying to do something with my life and you know I'm trying to teach my kids the right way.
She made the tough choice to leave the kids in the primary care of their father, believing that their presence between two parents in conflict was unhealthy.
Melissa Collins similarly recognised stability in the home was more important for her children than herding them between places. She was unhappy in her relationship with the kids' father, and felt that the country life they were living was not for her.
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